Our culture and Church has redefined “Love thy neighbor” and changed it to “affirm thy neighbor.” A church should speak the truth regardless of how someone takes it. The method in which you speak the truth should have love in mind, while forsaking the truth is not love at all. People want others to affirm the lies that they tell themselves. If a Christian passively allows this lie to cause spiritual harm it is not love. We preach in churches in way to keep attendance instead of equipping disciples to go into the world.
I believe it starts with a simple lie: Confrontation is horrible and should be avoided at all cost. Confrontation is inevitable for any mature Christian. When someone tells you to believe a lie or to conform to a lie you should tell the truth and be ready at all times. Many confrontations people choose to believe a logical fallacy. The logical fallacy is when you are confronting people with the truth you do it without love and without care. Sometimes it is true because you just want to win. Other times the truth offends them and they can not be affirmed in their own truth. Therefore, they tell you this is a confrontation or horrible argument and you have circle to the beginning of this paragraph.
Allowing the culture of “your truth” in the church can lead to “affirm thy neighbor.” The events of this year and the Coronavirus is examples of how we allowed this culture in our church. Systemically, you hear less messages preached that challenge the congregation. We don’t hear the church pass the elementary stage. You don’t hear anything about prophecy. I don’t hear much about equipping you for the culture we have instead in the make believe culture that exist in out minds. A metaphor is, affirming a child’s fear to not go outside of the home. A metaphor in the bible is serving milk inside the church. “Your truth” is not the Truth of God. Many Christians get on other Christians of not affirming someone’s truth because hurting their feelings is not love. I think if you help someone affirm their lie you are helping the King of Liars. It sounds like a hot take but you are putting someone on a wrong path.
Are we letting the culture define love? The culture has evolved love into affirming every emotion someone is feeling as truth. Christians should determine love in a different way. Only the Truth can set you free. It is not love to allow someone to stubble into a life of sin. It is not love to allow a friend to follow the path into Hell. Jesus died for our sins and shown us the greatest love you can give someone. Love is the bible. God wanting a relationship with his creation. What I have listed is what we need to show our neighbor. An enduring sacrificial love. Exclaiming the truth regardless of the consequences. Affirming your own sinful nature leads to death.
“Affirm thy Neighbor” is evil. You are putting someone’s truth above the Truth of God. “Your Truth” is a worship of yourself. The pride of wanting your ways above the ways of God is demonic. Since I told you what “Affirm thy Neighbor” is, we should be calling out any false teacher in the church doing this. Do you want to be the vehicle for the “spirit of the age?”